If you’re married with or without children and in the workforce, you’ve probably found yourself having to make some sacrifices at times. Whether that’s missing a work happy hour to pick up your kids at school or needing to call out of work to take care of things with your spouse, it can be a tough balance.
Millennials are getting married later than past generations, leading us to believe building a solid career and maintaining relationships with friends and family remains a top priority for many before tying the knot. For those taking the plunge and getting married at the beginning or the height of their careers, being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your life or your career completely. It’s important to remember that while you might have a life together with your spouse, you also have a life of your own.
If you’re not married yet but planning to be soon and wondering how on earth to manage your relationships and work-life all at once while still being a girl boss, you aren’t the only one. You can still be tied down while being in complete control of your professional life, here’s how.
Make your own decisions but keep your spouse in mind
Having someone to help you make decisions isn’t necessarily a bad thing, so long as they aren’t holding you back from what you really want. So, if a major career change may cause a hiccup in the relationship, weigh your options. It’s all about doing what will benefit both of you, not just yourself. While in a relationship, you should still feel like you have the freedom to make the choices that you want, whether it’s pursuing a degree or packing up and moving to another state to take a job in a new city you’ve always wanted to live in. Life is full of opportunities, so don’t miss out on them for fear of short-term turbulence in a relationship.
Lean on your support system
Your spouse is there to support you through the ups and downs of life. Let’s say you decide to quit a job without another one lined up to pursue school to get another degree. As long as the two of you are in the right financial position to do so, this would be the perfect time to lean on your support system while you pursue your goal. Your spouse should be understanding and in this case, happy to stand by your side knowing this will benefit you both in the long run.
Don’t lose sight of your career
Sometimes being in a relationship, we can put on our blinders to everything else in life. Friendships may suffer and our diet and exercise routines may fall by the wayside, but your career should remain near the top of your priorities. At the end of the day, your career is yours. If you want to be a hardworking, career-oriented spouse, do it! You can dedicate time to both your career and relationship, it might be hard at times, but it’s possible.
However, it’s key to set boundaries between work and your relationship. Quit checking email during dinner with a spouse or constantly talking about work-related things on the weekends. Not setting boundaries can run a happy marriage into the ground.
All this being said, sometimes different areas in your life will suffer. It can be so difficult to give one hundred percent of yourself in every facet of your life but not impossible. For many married women, being career-driven can take the back seat for a while and that is okay. As long as you aren’t sacrificing your own personal goals, you should do what works best for you and your spouse.
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