Witnessing two of your close ones into the unison of matrimony is most definitely overwhelming. And while you feel the emotional lump in the throat and the excitement to be a part of the ceremony, it’s more than obvious that you would want to express yourself and illustrate your happiness and affection towards the bride and the groom. In other words, you are waiting for the moment to raise the toast to the much loved couple by you in the wedding. However, when you decide to raise a toast keep a few things in mind, so that it does not turn out to be awkward. Here are a few toast raising techniques to help you out.
1. Pick the right party
Wedding toast is an honor usually for the key elements in a wedding, like the maid of honor, best man, the couple, parents or the grandparents at times. Unless you fall into one of these categories, it would be wise to wait for someone else, who is not from the inner family circle raise a toast first. Unless you feel that it is open to everyone, don’t step into someone else’s toes. Rather choose another event like less formal rehearsal dinner or the post wedding brunch for raining your glass in praises and sharing your best wishes publicly with the couple.
2. Keep it on the short
Don’t get carried away, and keep your wishes short for approximately two to three minutes. Remember there are other people also, who might be waiting for their turn. Don’t just seize the mike forever. Let other’s also share their heartfelt wishes to the newly wed.
3. Don’t read out your toast
You might feel that preparing beforehand would be a good idea. However, reading out your wishes from the piece of paper might not convey the messages clearly that a spontaneous heartfelt toast can do. Let it flow easily straight from your heart. If you fear slipping out or forgetting a few points due to the nervousness and the crowd, carrying a few small note cards will be good enough.
4. Play to your crowd
Learn to play according to the audience. Keep the mood of the crowd in mind before blurting out your emotions blindly. If the crowd is in the mood to party hard, a serious monologue is sure to bore the guests to the core. On the other hand the formal buttoned up crowd might not like to get into the details of the crazy vacation spent with one of the newly wed. Therefore, if you really want to be heard, keep the audience type and mood in mind.
5. Start-off simple
Start off simple with your wedding toast to the newly wed. There might be guests, who might not know you; it would be wise to introduce yourself first, so that the rest of the guests connect with you. While introducing yourself, stick to the fact that how you know the newlywed in a sentence or two. For example: I met Olivia in college during fresher’s orientation. Resist yourself to give it up to the temptation of going on and on with the fun time you had with your friend. Don’t forget to raise the toast to the bride and groom both. After all, it’s the most important occasion for both of them.
6. Make it fun
The best way to raise a wedding toast is by adding the fun element to it. During the wedding, people are usually in happy playful mood and a few jokes or incident can make the environment even more cheerful and light. The light funny wedding toast will surely get you a lot of attention from the guests.
7. Keep it clean
Refrain from using bad words or get drunken anecdotes. Remember, it’s a family function and not a bachelor’s party. Be responsible and decent with your language and gesture while raising a wedding toast.
8. Do not refer to ex’s
The last thing any couple would want in their wedding is any references to their Ex.’s. No matter how funny you think the story might be, refrain mentioning the ex.’s The newlywed have surely left the past behind and moved on to get married to someone else, and the mention of an ex can be highly uncomfortable for them.
9. End on a high note
Whatever you might choose to say, don’t forget to end your wedding toast on a high note like: I am so happy for you both, I love you and cheers!!