Every wedding has a lot of planning that goes in to it whether it be a ‘Big fat Greek’ wedding or a private wedding at your home. Among the things you need to plan for, you need to decide who would be the ring bearer at your wedding. Choosing a ring bearer may seem easier than it is. You need to consider all your family and friends and make sure you don’t hurt their sentiments.
Every wedding has a lot of planning that goes in to it whether it be a ‘Big fat Greek’ wedding or a private wedding at your home. Among the things you need to plan for, you need to decide who would be the ring bearer at your wedding. Choosing a ring bearer may seem easier than it is. You need to consider all your family and friends and make sure you don’t hurt their sentiments. Also you can have your decision so as to please your parents and end up messing up with the event. Here are some important tips you can choose the best ring bearer for your wedding.
1. Traditional or non-traditional
Traditionally a ring bearer is a little boy between the age of three and seven years. But you can be unconventional and choose a girl or even a pet. Sometimes, you may have little girls in your family rather than young boys. In this situation it makes sense to choose a girl as a ring bearer.
You may also have two ring bearers instead of just one if your family is huge.
In a family with too many little kids, you do not want to hurt any one’s feelings by choosing one child; then you may choose a pet instead. A dog or cat can look very cute walking down the aisle with the rings. The rings that ring bearers are meant to carry are false rings to symbolize the actual rings. So your pets can carry out the task perfectly with a little practice.
2. Age of the ring bearer
If you are to decide on a child as a ring bearer, do consider his/her age. A ring bearer should not be too young or else the child won’t be able to carry out the duty. The young kid may also get nervous being surrounded by a host of guests. You can use the age as one of the deciding factors for the ring bearer. If your ring bearer is a young kid, you will have to buy some tux or dress, so it’s also significant to consider the expense before you by the decision of choosing one. The older the child is, the more you will have to spend on his outfits and gifts. You can also rent tux from bridal shops and from children clothing stores.
3. Responsible
The child should be responsible enough to do his part. He should be able to remember when to walk down the aisle with the ring. The child needs to carry the pillow with the rings. If the kid is too shy he may not be able to walk properly. You may want to include the child during rehearsal dinner so that he is more confident and prepared for the big day. Generally, parents are advised to carry the child down the aisle so as not to let them go elsewhere in the wedding.
4. Parents of the ring bearer
You may think considering ring bearer’s parents may not be of consequence to choose the ring bearer, think again! Parents are best friends of the child and they can really ease your work during the ceremony. The ring bearer’s parents should also cooperate to help the child carry out his duty. They must not be one of those parents who would make this all about their child. It is imperative that you are on good terms with them so that they are of help to you rather than a burden.
5. Make your own decision
Finally you must make your decision on who to choose for the ring bearer duty. Do not let yourself be coaxed or persuaded by any one. You need to refuse others whom you have not chosen politely. Try to give them an explanation which would not hurt their feelings. Some people change their decision so as to please their friends and choose or ring bearer who is shy and spoil the event. Be frank with all and choose you think will best serve the purpose.