Does your husband spend more time in office? Has your home become a mini version of his office lately? Do you think that his laptops, office documents, files and papers are challenging your existence in his life? We understand what a challenge it is to live with a workaholic husband and expect to have a happy married life. But we have a solution for your problem too? Have a look at them and try to follow them in your life too. We assure that your life will get a magical makeover and you will get back your besotted hubby darling once again if you follow our miraculous tips.
Do not quarrel
Most of the times wives of workaholic husbands quarrel and complain that they are not happy. They express their extreme grievance every time they meet their husbands. But this is never a right thing as such plea goes unheard majority of the time. Where is the time for your workaholic husband to listen to such nagging? Rather, such an act only makes you frustrated and irritated further.
Try to peep inside his mind
Workaholics are either in love with their work or they try to hide something deeper by being more glued to their work. It is your duty to try to understand what it is, if he is really workaholic or it is his mask. You might be able to identify the inherent cause by having a few casual conversations with him. But if conversations do not pay off then wait and observe for some time. Hold your patience and your effort will get rewarded.
Temporary workaholics need different treatment
In case if you observe that this workaholic attitude in your spouse is latest derivation then you can conclude that he might be up to a mission. So, be certain that this will continue until he has achieved his mission. It might be his promotion, creating impression in office, earning overtime or something of similar sort. We will suggest that you should cooperate during this time and restrain from nagging and coaxing him.
Keep resentments aside
If your hubby is workaholic he is not a criminal. So, treating him like a criminal is never the solution of your problem. You must understand that he loves you and your position in his life is safe and constant. So, never encourage negative thoughts unnecessarily. Do not bring in uncalled for complication in your marriage and keep resentments aside.
Sometimes wives make life such a hell that their husbands prefer to stay at office more than at home. Ask yourself if you belong to this same category of wives or not? The best way to understand this is to put yourself in your husband’s shoes and feel whether you will be happy with such a wife or not. Next vital thing you must do is to amend yourself to make your husband turn homeward.
Appreciate your hubby
Instead of showing perennial hatred and bitterness to your husband for being alcoholic take a different approach. Appreciate him profusely. Tell him how grateful you are for having a husband like him. Try to convey to him in a wise manner that you are content with him and his financial status. You do not wish anything more. If your husband’s workaholic nature is his attempt to give you more financial security and comfort, then he will get the hint.
Remind him of his parental duties
Do not emphasize on your marital relationship only. Be polite and in some of your friendly communications let him know that your kids need him. So, it will be great if he could take out some time from his busy schedule and spend some time with the children too. Since parents can go to any bounds in order to make their children happy, so your appeal will never go waste.
Depriving him of work may be detrimental
If your husband is passionate about his work but spends quality time with you and your kids at home then you can never call him workaholic. He might not be available throughout the week but weekends may be reserved for you. You have to accept him that way. But if you try to deprive him from his work he might become unhappy and frustrated. This will cast a negative impact to his family life.
Stay away from two timing
It is often seen that the only way wives find to make their workaholic husband get normal like any other man is by getting involved in an extra marital affair. So, if you too are up to something then stop right there. Such things never solve any problem. Rather you will create a fissure in your marital life and your husband will become more and more frustrated.
Talk with him
It is important for you to maintain a regular communication with him. You might find it difficult to take out time from his hectic life. But capitalize whatever time you get, be it the precious fifteen minutes at the dinner table or the five minutes before he snoozes off at night. Do not waste that time in expressing grievances but encourage healthy conversation instead.