Post wedding blues and how to overcome them

Wedding means a massive change in lifestyle, so post wedding jitter is a common problem. Getting tied up in the wedlock implies adjustments and compromises. Broadly speaking, work and family life are two most prominent sectors that demand changes. Sometimes, it becomes quite difficult to cope up with these changes and therefore right after the wedding trouble begins. But, as they say nothing is impossible, so getting over post wedding jitters isn’t impossible too. We here give you some tricks to overcome the post wedding blues.

1. Doubting over the decision of marriage

Decision of Marriage

Reason:

Since the decision of getting married is really a serious one so after consenting to tie the wedlock every one in ten couples wonder whether they took the right decision or not. The trauma that haunts them is whether they will be able to live up to the expectations of married life or not.

How to overcome:

Instead of taking marriage as a major transition in life full of responsibilities and protocols, open up to your spouse. Let him or her know about your fear, trauma and depression, if any. Since both of you share the same life so to sit together and discuss things to bring about an amicable solution to many tormenting complications.

2. From a bride to a wife

Bride to a Wife

Reason:

More than a man a woman experiences a great transition, from being a girl to being a wife when she is married. This indicates new responsibilities, new relationships to adjust with and new duties to fulfill. Hence, immediately after marriage when the dream of a fantasy wedding has disappeared women starts feeling depressed. Majority of them find things much different to what they had conceptualized so far.

How to overcome:

Do not brood alone as that will aggravate your jitters. Take up new hobbies or pastime that will keep you preoccupied and drive away your worries. Add spark to your married life and capitalize your weekends and holidays.

3. Complications with in-laws

In-Laws

Reason:

Adjustments with in-laws after marriage always get difficult in the initial phases. The bride and the groom belong to two different family backgrounds. So, post marriage they find it problematic to get accustomed with a new culture and background.

How to overcome:

Since marriage is a relationship of two families along with two individuals so you have to learn how to get along with your in-laws. Do not get upset at the initial misunderstandings as time will recover your relationship with your in-laws.

4. Jitters after honeymoon

Honeymoon Blues

Reason:

The intense excitement of getting married seems to vanish after honeymoon gets over. Post honeymoon life starts moving on its regular track. This develops depression and post honeymoon blues among newlyweds.

How to overcome:

Keep the romance alive in your life after honeymoon too by planning romantic weekend hangouts, going for a movie, changing your old lifestyle a bit and including your spouse in a new project that you plan to start.

5. Missing family and friends

Family and Friends

Reason:

Brides feel sad for their parents, siblings and friends just few days after getting married. They miss their long association with their close ones, the spinsterhood memories torment them and they grieve.

How to overcome:

Marriage does not mean cutting off with the kith and keen of the bride. Plan post marriage family get togethers and parties where the family of the bride and the groom will be invited. This way the bride will get frequent chances to meet her family and the grief of missing them will vanish over the time.

6. Disinterest in sexual drive

Sexual intimacy

Reason:

Losing the sexual urge is a natural tendency of individuals that come and go like ebb and tide. But if your interest in sex is depleting vehemently and your marriage is suffering as a result, then it indicates that you or your spouse might be passing thorough some kind of distress.

How to overcome:

Try to spend happy times together by planning romantic night out with your spouse. Instead of worrying silently about your lost interest in sex, try to spend quality time with each other. This will enliven your lost sexual urge again over the time.

7. Juggling between professional and personal life
Career and Marriage

Reason:

Majority of women and men give priority either to their married life or their career. As a consequence, either marriage or career suffers. Thus, the end result is either a divorce or unhappy marriage or a lost career.

How to overcome:

Citing a balance in life is most crucial to overcome this situation. Try to include your spouse in whatever you do, like decision making, domestic chores, parenting, etc. Rather, it will distribute responsibilities and duties equally. Likewise, distribute your office job with your colleagues and subordinates too so that you are not burdened with work.

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